Is Writing Letters To Get Your Ex Back A Good Idea
Wednesday, September 23, 2009
, Posted by Terry W at 9:24 PM
A question you may be asking yourself after a breakup is whether writing letters to get your ex back a good idea? People do it all the time whether it is a text message, an email, or any other form of text-based correspondence. People try just about any form of communication possible when trying to get their ex back.
Let's just examine the good points and bad points of writing letters to see just how effective this method is. Some people can express things better in writing than they can verbally. So if this works for you, it can be a good thing.
However, letters are also impersonal. Grudges are held more when a breakup occurs over the phone, through text messaging, or through letters. The most honest way to break up with someone is in person, but many people prefer to do it the impersonal way. So it works in reverse also; to get your ex back, writing a letter probably is not the best way to express it.
Although writing letters can help you communicate what cannot be expressed verbally, chances are your ex already knows it. Therefore, learning to express those things verbally shows that you as an individual can change for the better for your ex and that change is something that is more than likely to draw them back to you rather than writing a letter.
The debate will continue in regards to the direct approach versus the indirect approach. Sometimes it is a good thing for indirect communication but nothing beats a face to face talk in a public setting. But writing letters can also be good, especially for you if verbal expressions are lacking. If your goal is to start the relationship again, nothing works better than the direct approach.
In conclusion, most people will advise you to use the indirect approach. Others will definitely prefer the direct method to reignite the relationship. At best, the debate will continue on just how beneficial writing letters to get your ex back is.
