Save Your Marriage-Infidelity Doesn't Have to Mean It's The End
Tuesday, September 8, 2009
, Posted by Terry W at 4:35 AM
Infidelity is not just the physical betrayal but it is also the emotional betrayal. One or both partners in the marriage begin to share their live with someone else.
Emotional infidelity has become a serious problem because of the workplace becoming more mixed. It is also easier to communicate on the sly with the use of emails,instant messaging, and texting have made it easier to communicate with people that are not supposed to be associated with.
Now the physical part of the affair has also become easier because we spend more time apart by working overtime, which is a widely used excuse used to spend more time with the other person. Infidelity is definitely a choice.
The things we use are all opportunities and excuses but not reasons. Sure infidelity is a big problem but it is not an insurmountable one.
The very first thing that needs to be done is figure out what went wrong in the marriage. There has to be something that lies dormant then is awaken. Something has been broken and needs to be fixed in order to get past the cheating, the lack of trust, and anger.
Do not and I repeat, DO NOT blame the other person. Yes, they cheated on you and not it isn't your fault. Somehow you need to move past it without playing the blame game; let the healing process begin at this point. Truth is you need to do all you can to put it all behind you.
Once you have found the reason why and have begun to work on it, you need to reestablish the trust in the marriage. This is a difficult task at hand because the trust is destroyed by infidelity. Work on rebuilding the trust but don't expect it to happen right away, and don't expect it to be easy.
Sure infidelity is terrible; sure it is wrong; sure it makes you want to destroy or take revenge on the person who hurt you but two wrongs have never made a right. Every relationship can be repaired if the persons involved are willing to follow the advice and help needed to repair your relationship.
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